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No. 0     Original Topic: A reminder   
By:  Administrator   Gender: M   Age: 50   on  Jul 8, 2006 at 9:53 PM   Viewed 205774 times     
Running a website of even a small to medium size requires funds to pay for server fees, programming upgrades and repairs, plus advertising to replace those who find someone or leave for ther reasons.

Our system of voluntary fees currently generates about ten cents per member per month if dividing the total income of $300-$400 by the number of members.

Compare that to what one of the popular Christian websites pays out every month on advertising alone, $30,000. We spend around $100 on advertising currently, though really should do more in order to become a more known operation.

So, all of that to notify people that funds are needed. Do not take that as imposing guilt. Truly, if the site is not providing you pleasure and function equivalent to any amount offered, then withhold contributions. On the other hand, if the cost of a movie once a month or less even can be offered, and what you find here provides that much value in return (it sure did for me as a member), then I would feel justified in making the trade, a donation for service rendered.

For those truly living by a shoestring (even if finding value in the site), do not worry for a moment about sending precious dollars.


I’ve made this an alert that greets members upon signing in (one time), then goes into the Administrator forum with whatever comments are made, so you know.

Thanks for taking a moment to read.


Randal,

MeetChristians.com Administrator


No. 2     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  SickOfItAll   Gender: F   Age: 24   on  Jul 8, 2006 at 10:18 PM     
So is donation mandatory now? I know mine ran out but I keep forgetting to buy a money order. :/
No. 3     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Obadiah   Gender: F   Age: 41   on  Jul 8, 2006 at 10:25 PM     
No. 4     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  listenandhear   Gender: F   Age: 49   on  Jul 8, 2006 at 10:42 PM     
Thank you so much for the information.
No. 5     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Administrator   Gender: M   Age: 50   on  Jul 8, 2006 at 11:04 PM     
SickOfItAll wrote:

So is donation mandatory now? I know mine ran out but I keep forgetting to buy a money order. :/

Not mandatory at all. No change in policy.
No. 6     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Leisha   Gender: F   Age: 37   on  Jul 8, 2006 at 11:11 PM     
I will be sending my donation soon - have been meaning to do it anyway, but funds...blahblahblah...you know.

I really enjoy this site, and consider it worth the small sacrifice.

Thanks, Randall.
No. 7     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Tim730   Gender: M   Age: 50   on  Jul 8, 2006 at 11:49 PM     
The new filter will hopefully remove a lot of the nuissances. The proposed new services are welcome and necessary to compete with the likes of christiancafe.com . If you can do what christiancafe.com does for less money you might be able to give them a run for their money. If I was in your shoes I would be offering free service without a profile photo (to pull in the crowds) and then charge a fee for adding a photo.
No. 8     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Reed   Gender: M   Age: 30   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 12:30 AM     
Randal,

Hey....You are a ministry...Never doubt that for one second. Hopefully your brothers and sisters in Christ, who have available funds, can step it up and acknowledge the service they get through this website. You probably know the stats....A very small of Christians even give a tithe to their own church....So this, being just an offering, probably receives much much less attention.

I will pray that you also will be blessed financially....So that even if funds don't match the needs....Perhaps additional funds will be found from some other area.

I know this site has always kind of struggled along to maintain it's completely free status....And it's a credit to the heart behind the people who run it.

I thank God for you and the effort and time you put into this....I will continue to donate when my first donation has run it's course....Thanks again for helping "the least of these"....Those who are not in a position to donate....Yet find a free and valuable ministry in which they can make new fellowships....

Reed
No. 9     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Daddys_Princess   Gender: F   Age: 55   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 12:55 AM     
I am paid up for the year
No. 10     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Sunnybrook   Gender: F   Age: 51   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 1:42 AM     
I'll be graduating and starting work in a law firm in the fall, and will be happy to contribute when I have more adequate cash flow!
No. 11     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Patrick955   Gender: M   Age: 39   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 1:50 AM     
Hi Randal,
My name is Patrick Ginn. I am a first year Game and Simulation Programming student at Devry University. I have built a couple of
websites as well. When I complete my studies. I will be more than qualified as a Software Engineer. Later down the road, When I have
some free time, I would be more than happy to donate some of my time to help you in any way that I could be of use -- and service my friend. A couple of websites that I created were --> http://www.tlelliott.net -- and also --
http://www.interginn.com . Have a super great day -- and God Bless You..!!

Your Friend: Patrick Ginn
No. 11     Reply: Thank you.   
By:  Pat795   Gender: M   Age: 38   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 3:19 AM     
This is the second time I have joined this site and I am again finding that this is the best Christian singles I have been part of. If you could advertise more, as you would like to, I think that this site could grow tremendously. Some of the more usual features such as winks would be good, but I particularly like your searching options and think this is one of the main areas where this site wins over the rest for me (particularly the new members, new photos and age that the searched members are seeking options).

Thank you for your continued efforts they are really appreciated and noticed, and may God continue to bless your endeavours with this site.

Pat.
No. 12     Reply:  A reminder   
By:  Julian   Gender: M   Age: 65   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 3:30 AM     
OK, I'll take the bait. Which continent was deleted? I would be guessing that it was Africa as that is the point of origin of most scam attempts. You have done me a big favour if that is the case because I am getting rather tired of 25-year-old African girls contacting a 65-year-old man with a view to matrimony.

I left Christian Cafe because it was too expensive and didn't find me any matches. They also kept annoying me by sending emails encouraging me to take advantage of their “special offers” of reduced fees, which were still high anyhow.

My profile was deleted from christianet.com because I queried the webmaster for proudly advertising his personal income as $200,000. Yep, just asked him how much of this money went to God's work, and I was deleted.

I was with christianmingle.com for quite a while. They had a one-off lifetime fee. I have "met" two enduring female friends in the Philippines through that website.
Now they have introduced a fee (and quite substantial at that) and ..... wait for this ..... you cannot participate in the discussions without paying the new ongoing fees. The discussions (called Message Boards) were quite namby-pamby with people patting each other on the back and agreeing with one another. There was no serious debate as there is at MC.

Probably neither of these women from the Philippines would have considered paying the new high fees and so I would never have “met” them.

MC is way and above the best Christian website I have belonged to, both for matchmaking and discussions. The discussions cater to a large variety of viewpoints, which is not the case with other Christian websites that I have visited.

So MC gives the best all-round value and is BY FAR the cheapest (well you can't get any cheaper than FREE).

Looking down the track a bit, I would hope that MC doesn't get greedy for money as some of the other "Christian" websites have done.

I would say that MC follows as closely as feasible the Scripture which is almost the cornerstone of my life:

Matthew 6:31-34 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.

And of course there is the parable of the window's mite.

TO SUM UP, I would encourage generous donations from those who can afford it, but always keeping the option of free membership for those who can't afford to pay.

No. 13     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Hugh   Gender: M   Age: 58   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 4:46 AM     
Hello Randal,

Is Tom still involved with MC?

My joining MC a few years back was premised on the concept that, without faulting anyone, it might not do me the least bit of good in terms of any "goals" being accomplished. There are obviously no guarantees of meeting Ms Right, but I enjoy occasionally participating on the basis the site remains actually free. You might be amazed how many similar sites are out there, including some supposedly Christian ones, who are less than forthcoming about the fact of their mandatory fees until after they've got you interested and listed - a listing which is useless until you pay. So I don't.

I appreciate and believe all you've said about costs etc., but I have always looked at match maker services - strictly from my point of view - as not worth expenditure of funds because there simply cannot be any guarantee of anything of substantive value, notwithstanding it is costing you. I certainly don't mean any offense, I'm pragmatic about it and have never joined any website that requires money.

Hugh
No. 14     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  ElderEarl822   Gender: M   Age: 52   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 4:49 AM     
Thanks for this site, I have enjoyed it tremendously. And I too would like to know if we could donate in advance...:2thumbs:
No. 15     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  jamescarr49   Gender: M   Age: 63   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 4:50 AM     
I will be sending you some money, but I am not sure how much

I will provide where the need is obvious.

Jim Carr in Michigan
No. 16     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Annie53   Gender: F   Age: 54   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 4:53 AM     
Thanks Randal, I would truly love to donate I'm on a pension and before i treid to send but found it difficult with our visa card and tried post office but it was very expensive to change our $$$ into USA $$$$ if there is another way I would loce to contribute,, Thanks Anna
No. 17     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Tom435   Gender: M   Age: 49   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 6:45 AM     
Hi.
God bless you.
First, I want to thank you for your faithfulness in providing this service.
Although I have never actually met anyone as a result of it, I truly appreciate the friendships made through an interaction with other users.
You mentioned something about "living by a shoestring". While that doesn't truly reflect my life-in-Christ, it comes close to expressing my life as far as the bank manager is concerned.
God's generous provision ALWAYS sees my financial life rise above such a dreary outlook though. Yet my faith is not strong-enough to permit me to channel even such a small amount of my financial resources in such a direction. (My "entertainment budget" is non-existent.)
I pray that you're financially compensated through other means to allow you to provide this service.
Thank you.
In His love,
Tom Legge
No. 18     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  anneke   Gender: F   Age: 52   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 7:42 AM     
Thank you for making the needs of this site known to us -- and for all the work you do to make it better.

May God bless all who spend time here. I will continue to donate to MC --
No. 19     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  PreciousRose   Gender: F   Age: 48   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 7:43 AM     
Dear Administrator,
Maybe the haves can help out by paying for the have-nots. Also i think some dont contribute because they are lazy or are busy and dont have the time. I remember that i tried last year to pay by credit card but paypal just would not accept any of my passwords ( may be i wasnt smart enough to think of a jolly good one! )Also for some of us from the east,queer govt restrictions prevent us from sending out small sums from the banks. Maybe you should increase the donation amt. I hope this suggestion of mine doesnt raise squeals of protests.
No. 20     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  EyeLovesJesus   Gender: F   Age: 56   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 7:43 AM     
Hello beloved brother..

I am here if you need any help..

May the Lord continue to watch over you and Bless this site..



No. 21     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Sheree   Gender: F   Age: 46   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 8:22 AM     
While I know from personal experience that many on here have financial needs, it's only right that people pay the $6.00/month fee.

If there are those with needs who can't pay, we, as the Body of Christ should help them out (when and if we can). That's what the Body is for.

Thanks for your hard work on here, Randall - it's much appreciated.

Love in Jesus,

Sheree
No. 23     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  lyla   Gender: F   Age: 29   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 9:41 AM     
Randal,


I totally understand this. Just wondering if its going to still be a 3 month thing or move to a month to month?
No. 24     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  glowgo2020   Gender: M   Age: 48   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 9:57 AM     
we all serve Jesus. in doing so we serve each other. to me this site is a blessing. what's Luke 6:38 say?? give and it shall be given onto you.
and what about tithes? u could give to this site for i believe Jesus has given this site to his people. i'm for obeying the lord Jesus. everything takes money and as a christian u should be a blessing to others.
non of self, all of God. not my will, but his will be done.
No. 25     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  aussiebwat   Gender: F   Age: 46   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 12:32 PM     
well i guess that means that you have effectively removed dave from south africa as well? and he was a regular and very good poster. that's a real shame
No. 26     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Marisa   Gender: F   Age: 27   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 1:04 PM     
aussiebwat wrote:

well i guess that means that you have effectively removed dave from south africa as well? and he was a regular and very good poster. that's a real shame


Not quite. It prevents an entire continent from obtaining membership.
No. 27     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Jonathan   Gender: M   Age: 48   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 1:13 PM     
SuperDave is here and logged in last 7-6-2006
No. 28     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Administrator   Gender: M   Age: 51   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 2:42 PM     
lyla wrote:

Randal,


I totally understand this. Just wondering if its going to still be a 3 month thing or move to a month to month?

Still 3 months.
No. 29     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  David44   Gender: M   Age: 46   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 2:49 PM     
Hi Randal,

I admire and applaud the way you conduct business! Keep up the good work and may God richly bless you!

David
No. 30     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Doug476   Gender: M   Age: 49   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 4:30 PM     
I think this site is great, and have no problem with the small donation we make now. Getting to know one new Christian friend is worth every cent

I am also thankful to the administrator for such hard work and keeping the price down.

C'mon everyone throw in a couple of bucks!
No. 31     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Jabrit99   Gender: F   Age: 33   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 5:07 PM     
I have been only on this site for a couple months but I am impressed with the site and its set up. However, the chat room is not used enough by members. Responses have been a bit slow and I attribute that to the fact that I am from the Caribbean.

Nevertheless, I would not like to see the site closed because of insufficient funding, so I am urging members to please make a donation to sustain the site. God bless you all and I pray that you are successful in your search.
No. 32     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  siska438   Gender: F   Age: 59   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 5:31 PM     
I agree, that we should be donating something and I have been guilty of not contributing to this site too but intend to begin
No. 33     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Shana   Gender: F   Age: 40   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 6:25 PM     
I'll go get my debit card!

No. 34     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  A-Girl-Devoted-2-God   Gender: F   Age: 19   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 7:01 PM     
I love this site, I think it is an excellent site for Christians! I think you guys have done a really excellent job and I would love to be able to help you out financially. But for 1 - I have no job, no income (I'm working on changing that, but at present that's how things stand) and 2 - even if I did have a job, I have no way of sending you money, I don't have a credit card, and I don't wish to get one.
If you can suggest another option, then when I start getting an income I shall give you financial support. The best I can offer you now (and really the best I can offer you at any time, even when I send you money), is my prayer support.

Lord bless!
Kate.
No. 35     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Follower   Gender: M   Age: 56   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 10:04 PM     
Thanks
No. 36     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Ribseeker   Gender: M   Age: 48   on  Jul 9, 2006 at 10:59 PM     
No. 39     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  cassandra593   Gender: F   Age: 33   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 12:37 AM     
Hi Randal,

I would love to help you financially but I just cant at this stage as my husband and I have separated and I have 3 small children to support. If I can donate anything in the future I definately will.

Take care and God bless
Sandy
No. 40     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Dale662   Gender: M   Age: 52   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 1:12 AM     
Thanks for the reminder.
No. 40     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Dale84   Gender: M   Age: 64   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 4:52 AM     
So, you isolated the continent of Africa, which was trying to scam people out of funds? Excellent.

The only alert which is really impt. to me is when I have mail. So I can come into the website to ceck it.

I may send more later.

Shalom and thanks for your excellent work,

Dale

You need ongoing income. Churches have a way for members to donate regularlyfrom their bank or credit card account. Maybe you can do something similar?

So it is automatic?

You did not respond to my fund raising ideas sent some time ago, along w/ two phoos I asked you to post. I have not checked my account to see if the photos were posted.

Thanks,

Dale84

No. 41     Reply: A reminder   
By:  Julian   Gender: M   Age: 65   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 5:41 AM     
What can you buy for $6 in America? I am just curious because I have NEARLY always put some coins in the plate at church regardless of my personal financial situation.

Currently I am in a serious debt situation, but I still choose to give small amounts of money to various charities as well as MC.

I don't wish or intend to sound "holier than thou." I am merely stating my practice of giving even a small amount towards people who are worse off than myself.
No. 42     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Suzy361   Gender: F   Age: 54   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 11:26 AM     
Thank you for all that you do to make this site all that it is.....I'm very appreciative and hope to be able to donate soon...
Thanks again.....
Suzy
No. 43     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Rebecky   Gender: F   Age: 43   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 12:25 PM     
I have in the past and hope to in the future.
Trying to get my head above water right now financially.
I will be praying on this subject.
Rebecca
No. 44     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  kim426   Gender: F   Age: 41   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 12:26 PM     
Just saw your notice asking for help. I would like to help you w/ the website if possible. Answering questions, etc. I am in the customer service field, and feel I am qualified to assist you. I recently became unemployed, and would be willing to offer some time for the 'team'!



God Bless,

Kim
No. 45     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Vickie   Gender: F   Age: 51   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 12:28 PM     
I, for one, appreciate the uniqueness of this site. I hope others will recognize how much a little help from many people can make all the difference.
No. 46     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  LisaLisa79   Gender: F   Age: 44   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 4:36 PM     
hello, ty
No. 47     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  wayne42   Gender: M   Age: 53   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 5:18 PM     
Thanks for the enlightening message Randal. If you have never managed anything like this website, business, etc., you don't truly understand what Randal is trying to say. I know that trying to provide a service, and I do mean a service, has got to be nerve wrecking. One thing that I have never understood, is this website should be packed with profiles and people discovering each other. But to my dismay, I find people on these expensive and some of them are truly rip-off sites. If you people want to spend money so badly, the good people at MeetChristians.com could really use your support. I for one am donating a pledge. Thanks again Randal!
No. 48     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Joy782   Gender: F   Age: 45   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 9:48 PM     
Randal, I'd suggest a $5.00 monthly fee, and then you can update the server and pay someone a few dollars to help keep things going, advertise a little, etc,....,... whaddyathink? Thanks for all you do to keep the site going! G B U, Joy
No. 49     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  SouthernLady614   Gender: F   Age: 39   on  Jul 10, 2006 at 9:55 PM     
Randall,

I'm glad you allowed those of us whose finances are "tight" to stay. I would like to donate when I can. MeetChristians has been good for me.

Thank you,

No. 50     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Kari   Gender: F   Age: 55   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 12:46 AM     
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No. 51     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  msellie   Gender: F   Age: 44   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 9:02 AM     
I will give as much as I can as soon as I can. I appreciate so much the opportunity to be a part of this community.
No. 52     Reply: Donations   
By:  Jeff868   Gender: M   Age: 48   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 9:40 AM     
You should make it easier for some to donate. It would not be too hard to setup a paypal account. I am sure there are a lot, like me, who could, and would, donate using paypal. Or online check would be good. I personally do not have a credit card, and dont want one. And mailing a check is too much trouble for some. I would just think that as many options you can give for anyone to donate would be to the websites benefit. The easier, the better! Just a suggestion of mine
No. 53     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  daughterofHim64   Gender: F   Age: 42   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 10:27 AM     
This sounds reasonable Dev.........I will *TRY* to get this taken care fo before we get married, but please be gracious if it's not's possible, we are getting married in four days & it's a bit CRAZY right now..
No. 54     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Yvette   Gender: F   Age: 50   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 10:27 AM     
Greetings Randal.

I for one feel very blessed to have MC. I would be very happy to be a regular contributor and plan to be as soon as I can work out finances.
Unlike some who have a comfortable income and who are lazy or possibly thoughtless as to the expenses of running this site, I haven't had but a meager income the past couple of months but want to contribute.

I have scaled down my mothly expenses to the barest, rent and electricity.
I have even told my friends and family to begin using the old fashioned method of communication... letter writing
A lost and beautiful art to say the least.
Anyhow , I do plan to send my contributions as soon as finances pick up, which I am told will be soon. We are coming into football season and should soon be swamped with buisness.

God bless friend and my prayers are that this site flourish and all will be a blessing and joy for you.

Sincerly,
Yvette.
No. 55     Reply: Re: Donations   
By:  MrsJulie   Gender: F   Age: 43   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 11:59 AM     
Jeff868 wrote:

You should make it easier for some to donate. It would not be too hard to setup a paypal account. I am sure there are a lot, like me, who could, and would, donate using paypal. Or online check would be good. I personally do not have a credit card, and dont want one. And mailing a check is too much trouble for some. I would just think that as many options you can give for anyone to donate would be to the websites benefit. The easier, the better! Just a suggestion of mine


MC has had a PayPal account for ages. If you click on user tools and then donate ... the option is there. That's the only way I donate. Enjoy!
No. 56     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Bonnie849   Gender: F   Age: 53   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 1:00 PM     
Randal:

Thanks for the reminder that you have out-of-pocket expenses to provide this free site for so many. I would like to encourage everyone to send at the very least the suggested donation, and for those who can afford it, a more generous amount.
No. 57     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Sisterlove378   Gender: F   Age: 55   on  Jul 11, 2006 at 9:13 PM     
My Brother in Christ
I do understand your sacrifice and the finances it takes to keep this site
going. I do understand wholeheartedly there is a cost as I myself are
going through such dire financial needs myself being Iam now disabled
and my income is not enough to cover my mortgage alone.
All I can do is pray even a small amount is something that I myself cannot even send to you because I am in such need myself, May I ask that you
and all the saints of God to pray for my health and for my finances Iam in dire financial need.
Thank You
God bless you
Sister Cody
No. 58     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  ricci855   Gender: F   Age: 41   on  Jul 12, 2006 at 6:09 AM     
I have always paid so keep up the good work
No. 59     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Tommy68   Gender: M   Age: 37   on  Jul 12, 2006 at 9:08 AM     
I want to say thank you for all your hard work and efforts. I think the amount you have requested as a donation is more than fair and reasonable,especially considering all that you do here for so many. I for one have been blessed by your site and want to help with a contribution. Thank you again for helping christian men amd women come together and have a way to grow and expand our social circles.
In Jesus name,
Tommy Fincher
No. 60     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  timothy85   Gender: M   Age: 25   on  Jul 12, 2006 at 10:42 AM     
I suggest putting this out to companies for advertising, so that way it can be funded that way, and it could survive like the myspace giant...but for christians of course
No. 61     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Alice649525   Gender: F   Age: 54   on  Jul 12, 2006 at 10:42 AM     
Hi Adminstrator!

Thanks for the reminder and for telling those who cant afford to donate not to worry. I still want to continue my membership but I just cant donate this time due to the needs of our evangelism and church planting ministry in the Philippines which my husband and I have given priority.

I pray that those who have much in life and are enjoying with their membership here will not hesitate to give their donations so the operation of this website will continue and be able to serve many more Christian people. God Bless.
No. 62     Reply: Re: Re: Donations   
By:  Jeff868   Gender: M   Age: 48   on  Jul 12, 2006 at 12:34 PM     
MrsJulie662 wrote:

Jeff868 wrote:

You should make it easier for some to donate. It would not be too hard to setup a paypal account. I am sure there are a lot, like me, who could, and would, donate using paypal. Or online check would be good. I personally do not have a credit card, and dont want one. And mailing a check is too much trouble for some. I would just think that as many options you can give for anyone to donate would be to the websites benefit. The easier, the better! Just a suggestion of mine


MC has had a PayPal account for ages. If you click on user tools and then donate ... the option is there. That's the only way I donate. Enjoy!


Whooops! My bad! Well I am pretty sure that has not always been an option, I recently rejoined this site I was absent for almost a year but before that I was a member here for many years and I have NEVER saw that before and I have checked out that link before but not since I rejoined. Is this place under new management? Just wondering. I am glad you can donate from paypal though and if it has always been there then I am blind as a bat I appreciate you pointing this out to me
Blessings
~Jeff~
P.S. Donation forthcoming!
No. 63     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  believer   Gender: M   Age: 53   on  Jul 12, 2006 at 7:39 PM     
I admire & respect your sticking to this ministry.It must cost you a lot of money.I want to thank you for allwoing people to come together as members of the family of God.Unfortunately,& I'm sure you can verify that, I haven't had much luck in finding a partner.Maybe,it's not my time yetor "that woman" hasn't joined yet,but I do check in time to time & go thru the profiles.

Thank you & God bless you & yours.

Bassam Juzdan
No. 64     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  GEORGE686   Gender: M   Age: 32   on  Jul 13, 2006 at 3:39 PM     
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SERVICES.... I WANT TO HELP, I NEED TO HELP, I JUST NEED TO GET UP AND DO IT...I APOLOGIZE FOR NOT DOING SO WHEN I WAS WELL STABLEIZED, I AM GOING TO MAKE IT A POINT TO DO SO, BECAUSE OF THE BLESSING THAT IT HAS BEEN TO ME... THANKS AGAIN...
IN HIS SERVICE... GEORGE
No. 65     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Ezekiel767   Gender: M   Age: 30   on  Jul 13, 2006 at 10:11 PM     
Well some of us from africa countries would like other modes of payement since credit cards might not be easy to come by.
Thanks
GOOD job keep on..
No. 66     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  TJ897   Gender: M   Age: 52   on  Jul 14, 2006 at 9:15 AM     
Randal
Thankyou for a site that truly has Gods leading in mind. I do not use this site often. But I tell everyone I can. I will attempt to send some money your way. It is only right. Thank you for a great site!
Tike
No. 67     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Dee   Gender: F   Age: 38   on  Jul 14, 2006 at 4:01 PM     
Meet Christians.com is truly a blessing - it's amazing communicating with brothers and sisters in Christ all around the world.
Thank you,
God Bless you,
Dee
No. 68     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Chris228   Gender: M   Age: 47   on  Jul 15, 2006 at 12:09 AM     
I've been contributing and will continue to contribute. I'm sorry others do not feel their contribution would matter. This has always been a good service for making friends and meeting singles from around the world. It's been good to receive encouragement from other singles as well as give it from time to time. If the service goes away for lack of support then maybe it should have become a mandatory subscriber service earlier. New members join every week to get the experience others have enjoyed for years. Is it only because they can join freely, remain members freely, receive the benefits freely and it costs nothing? Will they also feel no loss when service is shut down and all their penpals, advisors and confidents are gone?
No. 69     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  marcos735   Gender: M   Age: 44   on  Jul 15, 2006 at 12:45 AM     
I have tried to become a paying member. I want to pay thru my credit card but I get a wrong message. Let me know the best way to contribute.

Marcos
No. 70     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Ken794   Gender: M   Age: 49   on  Jul 15, 2006 at 12:54 AM     
I've gotten very little from this site so far. I check once a week and I haven't found anyone of interest in the few years I've been a member. I've posted a few times on the forum. Even so, I don't mind the amount I've been paying. I haven't reached a point of abandoning all hope. I did quit another site a year or two ago and I'm checking rela...com, but not joining until I see a prospect.

I hope that more people will see that they can afford to contribute.

Thanks.
No. 71     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  ebbi793   Gender: M   Age: 40   on  Jul 15, 2006 at 2:43 PM     

The idea of contributing by donation towards the web, is good one in order to keep web functioning, it is not an easy thing to maintain web site this type without an assistant by the member.

Ebbi793.
No. 72     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Will475   Gender: M   Age: 44   on  Jul 15, 2006 at 3:21 PM     
Hello -

Thanks for the reminder. I am currently on two other sties and am deciding which to stay with. I have so greatly appreciated service your guys are providing here and I would not feel right to go on with out making some contribution of support. I am ine midst of moving and will catch up with this site next week I hope.
No. 73     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  truecolors4u2   Gender: F   Age: 54   on  Jul 16, 2006 at 10:41 AM     
Hi Randal - well, if you have found someone decent without an ulterior motive, you are lucky - I have checked this site several times and/or checked out so called messages, only to find that the majority were from Nigeria. Pls don't take this personally, but if I had at least had one decent contact over the last 2.5 years, I surely would try to contribute, however, I understand this takes time and money, and will try to contribute. Thank you for considering my comments.
No. 74     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Alain55   Gender: M   Age: 39   on  Jul 17, 2006 at 1:54 PM     
i will soon send some dollars.u are doin a marvellous job.Thanks.
No. 75     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Pam   Gender: F   Age: 38   on  Jul 17, 2006 at 3:11 PM     
I will someday donate. At the time I have not been using the site as I would like to. Only logging on due to the reminders. I have not had the time to really use and enjoy the site since I am working,taking writing classes and caring for my home and pets. When my classes are over I will be able to donate-as that has tied up finances and time. I do appreciate the reminders and occasional E-mails.God Bless! Pam
No. 76     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Hero   Gender: M   Age: 28   on  Jul 17, 2006 at 3:20 PM     
I truly would love to donate but for now I don't have but I have my prayers and I am very sure that in the nearest future I will be able to give. Thanks
No. 77     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Administrator   Gender: M   Age: 51   on  Jul 17, 2006 at 4:59 PM     
Susan35 wrote:

Hi Randal - well, if you have found someone decent without an ulterior motive, you are lucky - I have checked this site several times and/or checked out so called messages, only to find that the majority were from Nigeria. Pls don't take this personally, but if I had at least had one decent contact over the last 2.5 years, I surely would try to contribute, however, I understand this takes time and money, and will try to contribute. Thank you for considering my comments.

The sad news is that people beyond a certain age simply get far fewer inquiries. That holds true on any site, though one with a larger database could lead to more contacts overall (probably not percentage-wise).

Consequently, my suggestion is for people to make themselves known in the forums. If nothing else, quite a few valuable friendships have been made there. And a few marriages too. Worst case scenario is a live diversion that beats television, well, for some.

As for the Nigerians, the incidence of that occurring really ought to have dropped way off in the last couple months due to software modifications and vigorous eradication of bogus profiles. If you are still getting contacted, then please let me know.

Thank you for the feedback.
No. 78     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Nadia269   Gender: F   Age: 50   on  Jul 18, 2006 at 12:42 AM     
Randal,
I appriciate your very usefuk work for us single women. I'm sure that if men are majority less problems occure in the world in our country at age after 40 you almost can't find appropriate man. That why we are seeking for a love heart abroad.Sorry, in our country of the 3 world we rarely use credit card and at the moment ihave no apportunity to trabsfer any money for keeping your site works.
Thanks,
Nadezhda
No. 79     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  NlovewithChrist   Gender: F   Age: 39   on  Jul 21, 2006 at 6:53 PM     
And why is this...

The sad news is that people beyond a certain age simply get far fewer inquiries.




:answer: (you don't really have to answer...**Sandi hijacker is just trying to be funny)!!
No. 80     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Marisa   Gender: F   Age: 27   on  Aug 1, 2006 at 9:11 AM     
Hey there!!!

Just curious if you saw an increase in donations this month?!?

I sure hope so! You deserve it, even though it simply goes back to everyone in the sense of server fees, site enhancements and advertising to get more members to join!

:hug:
No. 81     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Administrator   Gender: M   Age: 51   on  Aug 1, 2006 at 9:17 PM     
Marisa wrote:

Hey there!!!

Just curious if you saw an increase in donations this month?!?

I sure hope so! You deserve it, even though it simply goes back to everyone in the sense of server fees, site enhancements and advertising to get more members to join!

:hug:

No.

I was quite surprised actually. The appeal had almost zero effect (or maybe none, depending on outside variations). Donations for the month came in at $330.11. June was $324. One year ago $480 was given. Two years ago, the figure recorded is $673.

The $330 total from this month turns out to be 8 cents per person per month from the entire membership, obviously with considerably more from the small group that volunteers.

That means any plans of upgrading aside from a few cosmetic changes already paid for have been shelved. Anyone having sent money for the purpose of modernizing the features can request a refund.
No. 82     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  QualityTime   Gender: F   Age: 53   on  Aug 1, 2006 at 11:12 PM     
I tried to donate $20.+ for three months but paypal ONLY wanted to use my bank account to transfer the money from. I kept filling out the information to have it charged to my VISA card and it would not process the funds. I have deleted my checking account info from paypal in the past...I don't know why they keep referring back to it. Sir, this is not supposed to be difficult.

Thanks for any assistance you can render,
Karen Halstead
No. 82     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Administrator   Gender: M   Age: 51   on  Aug 2, 2006 at 10:08 PM     
QualityTime wrote:

Sir, this is not supposed to be difficult.

Thanks for any assistance you can render,
Karen Halstead

Sorry, I am of no assistance here, failing to comprehend the whole PayPal thing except for the one account for the site. Maybe some day this website will update to make the whole payment thing much easier. No worries though, thanks for trying.

No. 84     Reply: A reminder   
By:  Julian   Gender: M   Age: 65   on  Aug 3, 2006 at 7:34 AM     
Ken794 wrote:
I'm checking rela...com, but not joining until I see a prospect.

Thanks.


Hi Ken. I know what you mean about rela...com. They used to have a one-off lifetime membership and I used to participate in the message boards. I was quite annoyed to find that I could not participate in the discussions unless I paid their new high fees.

Anyhow they sent me a match who lived in my own city, so I paid, and send a message to the woman and she didn't bother to reply. I will be leaving that site again when my current membership expires.

I have also abandoned christ...cafe.com because of the high fees and no matches for an Australian.

The service at MC outclasses all the other Christian websites I have tried and I am surprised and disappointed that people say they cannot afford even $6 per month.
No. 85     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  NlovewithChrist   Gender: F   Age: 39   on  Aug 4, 2006 at 10:05 PM     
Julian,

What a kind thing to write.

Quality time,

I'd try another credit card. I know for some reason ATM cards can be rejected by paypal. Don't ask me why -- I have no idea (a friend of mine who buys and sells on ebay all the time told me this). If it wasn't an ATM card and it's current...then I have not idea why...but trying another card is my 'best advice'...(yes I turn off my computer and restart it when it has issues [computer geeks laugh as you may -- but it usually works)!!
No. 86     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Kari   Gender: F   Age: 56   on  Aug 8, 2006 at 9:15 AM     
I never realized how much this is seen as a "hook up" place by so many. I have always come here for fellowship and the chance to hear what others have to share as well as express my own thoughts on the forums.

If we are talking friendships and interaction this site has been a wonderful place and still is. I actually defend it when a few people
I know call it a dating site. It is so much more.

Sending a small donation to be able to sit down and visit with people anywhere in this world for as long as you like... is the best deal out there in any country.

And if all you want is a date or mate.... it won't matter the site, it will be more based on age, attractiveness, your faith and life values, what you write in your profile, and where you live.

MeetChristians.com has been a place for me to enjoy people for almost 4 years. I am not looking for a "hook up".

:popcorn:
No. 87     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  RobertoVO5   Gender: M   Age: 50   on  Aug 8, 2006 at 12:45 PM     
Kari wrote:

MeetChristians.com has been a place for me to enjoy people for almost 4 years. I am not looking for a "hook up".

:popcorn:


That's cuz you already have one. :kiss::hug::wub:
No. 88     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Kari   Gender: F   Age: 56   on  Aug 8, 2006 at 5:36 PM     
LOL...that's true.
No. 89     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  KissCactus   Gender: M   Age: 34   on  Aug 12, 2006 at 9:43 PM     
You know, if MC took PayPal donations, it would be much easier to give.

Just my humble two cents!
No. 90     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Tammy   Gender: F   Age: 42   on  Aug 12, 2006 at 10:29 PM     
KissCactus wrote:

You know, if MC took PayPal donations, it would be much easier to give.

Just my humble two cents!


Uh-oh, Cactus...might have to cash in that humble 2 cents. I just donated...using (what may be new) PayPal option (lol)
No. 90     Reply: Re: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Marisa   Gender: F   Age: 27   on  Aug 13, 2006 at 1:48 PM     
Tammy wrote:

KissCactus wrote:

You know, if MC took PayPal donations, it would be much easier to give.

Just my humble two cents!


Uh-oh, Cactus...might have to cash in that humble 2 cents. I just donated...using (what may be new) PayPal option (lol)


MC has allowed PayPal donations for years.
No. 91     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  KissCactus   Gender: M   Age: 34   on  Aug 18, 2006 at 10:49 AM     
Ah, I donated!

I always overlooked that left button because it says "pay by credit card" and makes no mention of PayPal. There's some more two cents, Mr. Webmaster.

And oh goodie, now I can talk about cute MC girls in the Men's Forum!!! :ban_dance:
No. 92     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  Dwight889   Gender: M   Age: 36   on  Aug 24, 2006 at 2:32 PM     
KissCactus wrote:

Ah, I donated!

I always overlooked that left button because it says "pay by credit card" and makes no mention of PayPal. There's some more two cents, Mr. Webmaster.

And oh goodie, now I can talk about cute MC girls in the Men's Forum!!! :ban_dance:


Yeah, right!

Or, what you mean is, see how really empty it is in there.
No. 93     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  baddhabbitt   Gender: M   Age: 52   on  Aug 30, 2006 at 11:40 AM     
Donating was easy just click and it went straight to my paypal account, thanks for making it easy on this lazy one.
No. 94     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Elsabeth557   Gender: F   Age: 27   on  Sep 22, 2006 at 5:54 AM     
No. 95     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  outdoorman93   Gender: M   Age: 51   on  Sep 22, 2006 at 9:08 AM     
I had such a difficult time giving up the two candy bars & Two diet cokes each week to round up the cash, finding a pen to write a check was such a hassle...Maybe the Lord will rain down manna from heaven to you dev , If I pray once or twice for it to happen, so I won't have to hassle with going to the post office to buy stamps so I can affix them to a envelope and send them in your direction.....[just another slight hassle for me].......I often thought of picking up a couple pop cans on the side of the road and cashing them in, just enough to help you out...But then again I thought how stupid that was because I might strain my back picking up those cans, then I would really be hurting and would have a tougher time paying $3 a gal for gas so I could drive my car a block away to the grocery store to buy my smokes........:twocents:
No. 97     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Daddys_Princess   Gender: F   Age: 55   on  Apr 25, 2007 at 7:48 AM     
Dev... I mailed my 3 month Payment today with a note. 04/25/07
No. 98     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Daddys_Princess   Gender: F   Age: 55   on  Apr 25, 2007 at 6:53 PM     
MeetChristians.com
2203 N Verdugo Rd. Suite 3
Glendale, CA 91208

No. 99     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Not2xs   Gender: M   Age: 46   on  Jul 11, 2007 at 2:34 AM     
Shalom,
I haven't been active on this site for long but was active on another site, Adventist___connection.... (ASC) and came to love the fellowship and discussion of Scripture there. However, there were a few members who didn't like non SDA's on that site and they grouped together to get people kicked off. How Sad!

The complaining on that site by a few was unbelievable and I couldn't believe that administration gave in to their requests to get people kicked off. I saw person after person get kicked off for no good reason, and then it came to me. I guess that is what a paying membership does; get a few paying members to gang up on a single person and it doesn't matter what the person does, they are out of there. Well, their agreement did state that they can remove any profile for any reason.

Anyway, from what I have seen so far on this site I don't see a bunch of complainers. If there are some I hope there aren't many. BTW, I believe that the owners of ASC also own relations___...., curently Christ___Mingle.....

In time I hope to develop friendships with many on this site not mattering if we agree on certain subjects or not. I will be mailing in a donation.

Blessings to all in our heavenly father's holy name, Yahweh.

Kevin
No. 98     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  Daddys_Princess   Gender: F   Age: 56   on  Dec 7, 2007 at 6:46 PM     
I just discovered that mine ran out today... Is there a letter that can be generated a week before before it runs out; to let folks know their donation time is about to expire? I can't every remember it and it take much too long to get registerd once I do it by mail.
No. 99     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  xylonawyn10   Gender: F   Age: 29   on  Dec 1, 2008 at 6:02 PM     
Randal,

I just want to thank you that this site is free, and that donating is optional. If it weren't for that option I would have never joined MC.

At the time I joined, I was house bound with the same auto-immune neurological disease I have now (I am no longer house bound, but must be extremely careful so I don't end up that way again); and had NO money what-so-ever, and unlike what some people seem to think, there are those who could never have gone wandering about looking for empty cans etc.. to cash in! Nor do some have any money to spend on even small things, (I find the insinuation just so insulting), because a person who is house bound with a disease doesn't buy stupid things such as candy bars, soda, or cigarettes. So whatever! :no-no:

I dislike it when paying members judge the non-paying members. It's cruel and evil because "they" do not know of every persons unfortunate situation in life, so who are they to judge! Maybe they will get a chance to be in a situation where they have no money what-so-ever, and without any way of getting it too, and then they will know how wrong it is to judge others who cannot pay for things :x
Then THEY can sit around with knowing what it's like to have the depressing heavy weight of being such a burden to others whom they love and with only the ability to wish it could somehow be different.
Then they can be depressed to the point of suicide, and on top of that have snotty people telling them surely they could PAY something!!!

In any case, I am glad to say that by the REAL Love and Kindness of REAL Christians, I was helped to start my own business, and now am able to donate And I will be donating for as long as I have my business. :pray:

You are a saint Randal, and I appreciate your flexibility in matters such as donations.

No matter how some may criticize and squeal at the poor, the poor are not lesser because of monetary poorness. The only true poor are those who have no compassion or empathy.

Not everyone is trying to get something for nothing. Not everyone is lazy. Not everyone is living off the government (which I am proud to say I have never done!!! I have NEVER lived off of anyone's tax dollars!). And for the sincere who have had to..., well that's what it's there for: To help those who are sincere in their poverty, who aren't liars.

The people who are actually sincere in their poverty (both monetary and health wise) do NOT need the criticism of others to make them feel even lower and more depressed than they already feel.:cry:

The sincere poor have the integrity to pay, and all they need is an opportunity and chance to prove that integrity. Which I have done.:naanaa:
Until people can experience what life is like in somebody elses shoes they should reserve their criticism for themselves and their own lives. :twocents:

The civility which money will purchase, is rarely extended to those who have none.
-Charles Dickens


Dignity, and even holiness too, sometimes, are more questions of coat and waistcoat than some people imagine.
-Charles Dickens


No one is useless in the world who lightens the burden of it for anyone else.
-Charles Dickens

No. 101     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  forgiven   Gender: M   Age: 61   on  Oct 12, 2014 at 6:00 PM     
This was the very first website I joined after buying my first computer in January 2000. I was once an active member and donated on occasion. I now pay for another site. One reason I don't participate here is the conservative politics. When the administrator states his bias on the opening page "what democrats believe" then it sets the tone for the entire site. You certainly have a right to you view and to express it, but it does not represent the view of all believers.

Also some of the changes such as the badges don't really appeal to me.

I always supported MC because the price -free- is affordable to those in countries such as the Philippines. I did visit a Philippine lady I met here in 2005. If I were to become active again I would gladly pay a modest fee to help so that those in poor countries could participate.
No. 102     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  greendiamond   Gender: F   Age: 61   on  Jun 29, 2015 at 7:31 AM     
Administrator wrote:

Running a website of even a small to medium size requires funds to pay for server fees, programming upgrades and repairs, plus advertising to replace those who find someone or leave for ther reasons.

Our system of voluntary fees currently generates about ten cents per member per month if dividing the total income of $300-$400 by the number of members.

Compare that to what one of the popular Christian websites pays out every month on advertising alone, $30,000. We spend around $100 on advertising currently, though really should do more in order to become a more known operation.

So, all of that to notify people that funds are needed. Do not take that as imposing guilt. Truly, if the site is not providing you pleasure and function equivalent to any amount offered, then withhold contributions. On the other hand, if the cost of a movie once a month or less even can be offered, and what you find here provides that much value in return (it sure did for me as a member), then I would feel justified in making the trade, a donation for service rendered.

For those truly living by a shoestring (even if finding value in the site), do not worry for a moment about sending precious dollars.


I’ve made this an alert that greets members upon signing in (one time), then goes into the Administrator forum with whatever comments are made, so you know.

Thanks for taking a moment to read.


Randal,

MeetChristians.com Administrator




hi Randal......

thanx for the reminder.....
as soon as i can, i'll send something......
lost jobs due to med condition
not at all concerned about payment plan being current...
just want to send in random gifts
to show my appreciation
for this beautiful website
where Christians to meet and talk.
God bless you immensely......:2thumbs:
No. 103     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 57   on  Nov 18, 2015 at 9:05 AM     
I thank God ... and I thank you Randal ... for this website ! :2thumbs:

No. 104     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  Apr 7, 2017 at 5:48 AM     
:pray:
No. 105     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  WhiteSwan55   Gender: F   Age: 38   on  Oct 29, 2017 at 6:32 PM     
I have considered making a contribution. I have also noticed that right now, it is impossible to upload a picture. It always gives me an error message. I am wondering if it is possible to fix the picture uploading option?
No. 106     Reply: Re: Re: A reminder   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  Oct 30, 2017 at 6:04 AM     
WhiteSwan55 wrote:

I have considered making a contribution. I have also noticed that right now, it is impossible to upload a picture. It always gives me an error message. I am wondering if it is possible to fix the picture uploading option?



Glad you are here WhiteSwan ... and appreciate your patience ... as we wait on certain issues to be taken care of with this website.

MC is sort of like a " used " car. The engine is running okay, but it needs some repairs here and there.

Again, thanks for riding along with us !

No. 107     Reply: Re: A reminder   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  Dec 21, 2017 at 6:53 AM     
:group_prayer: