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No. 0     Original Topic:  Eulogy Advise?   
By:  crayons   Gender: M   Age: 61   on  Oct 18, 2017 at 11:08 PM   Viewed 1206 times     
I know;;; never tell the crowd that funerals are only for the living.

One My of my top employees I called Chief; had his heart explode; He was a Very hard workin young 46 year old, Tough, Saved Christian, a Native American who Never showed any sign of weakness or sickness. He reminded me of me in so many ways you could not imagine, he could do the High Wire Act & do anything we stacked him up with.

I worked with him all day Saturday moving units around and we were Laughin
havin a good time and late Sunday night his heart explodes & by Monday he was gone.

SO OK; lookin for advise,,,He and I talked several times about the First, Second and Third Heavens.

He Knew i had been back sliding due to all the financing issues i have to deal with...I give him credit for that; Everyone wanting the lucy financing is something i struggle with.

The funeral is Saturday and I'm wondering; Should I share His Message
about the Heavens? A lot of people will be there, His 3 wives,kids,family & Half the Catholic church from 3 counties,

Jeez...I want to give Give Them Something Uplifting, something to Fight For, NOT the Typical Cryfest! ANY ADVISE? Anyone familiar with a smooth
exciting articulate 3 heavens message?

I'm Sorry But My Only Gift is praying against storms.

modified because this crap looks discombobulated. i cant fix it.


No. 1     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  crayons   Gender: M   Age: 61   on  Oct 18, 2017 at 11:29 PM     
i'm sorry i meant 3 ex wives not to mention all the kids, sisters, extended
family etc.

You know; the Lord will just throw you, call you right back into his work;
ya know it?
No. 2     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  texascowgirl283   Gender: F   Age: 51   on  Oct 19, 2017 at 8:32 AM     
If I were you I dont believe I would share anything biblical. I say that because some have different up bringings and points of view and plus you dont know the mental stability of those that will be there. Better to be safe than sorry. I leared that the hard way when I tried to comfort someone here and what happened was horrible and something you don't ever want to occur at a funeral.

PS. As casandie said, I too am sorry for your loss.

No. 3     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  Oct 19, 2017 at 10:05 AM     

Crayons -- I'm sorry for your loss and send prayers of comfort your way.

Can we back slide when His Love guides us? I will pray in this area as well.

As far as the funeral, I would do as the Lord guides (but agree with tcg that a funeral is not necessarily a time for discussion on theological beliefs rather than grieving which would limit discussion to that purpose).

Stating your worker's love for God and your respect for your worker might be of comfort to those attending. <3

mod clarity
No. 4     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  crayons   Gender: M   Age: 61   on  Oct 19, 2017 at 11:11 PM     
thanks for sharing. i've already been raked over a coal
or two for saying Thank God He Went Quick.

So; I will be there; but just found out that the funeral home
has a non denom pastor that can give a scripted
form letter type message, Thats what i'm counting on.
If i get called on fine; if i don't thats even better. it will
keep me out of the mess. At my age you'd think one would git
used to this but you don't.

Chief always said he'd work till he died and he didn't care;
that was one reason why i liked the SOB. I feel the same way.

I Pray God Will Bless this Mess --- Amen and Amen
No. 5     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  texascowgirl283   Gender: F   Age: 51   on  Oct 20, 2017 at 9:16 AM     
i've already been raked over a coal
or two for saying Thank God He Went Quick.

That's what Im talking about. I know all you meant was he didnt suffer long or maybe it was so quick he didnt suffer at all. But people take things in the worse way possible sometimes. So I'm glad your decided agaisnt saying anything biblical at the funeral. If you speak at the funeral just say who he was to you or the good you saw in him and what a freind he was to you and how he will be missed. You really dont need to say anythng more than that. And you can prepare your speech ahead of time so you know what your gonna say and how your gonna say it or word it and you will be fine.
No. 6     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  Survivor698   Gender: M   Age: 103   on  Oct 20, 2017 at 6:06 PM     
Did he ever mention or leave anything about how he would desire his funeral to be conducted?

My experience has been with believers, they desire their beliefs to be shared at their funeral, regardless of whom will be in attendance. Many leave requests outlining their funeral. It is their one last opportunity to share the "good news" with loved ones and friends.

If being a Christian is who he was and it was evident by his fruits, I personally think it would be ashamed to not share whom he was as far as beliefs to his loved ones and friends left behind.
No. 7     Reply: Re: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  Oct 21, 2017 at 11:37 AM     
crayons wrote:

thanks for sharing. i've already been raked over a coal
or two for saying Thank God He Went Quick.

So; I will be there; but just found out that the funeral home
has a non denom pastor that can give a scripted
form letter type message, Thats what i'm counting on.
If i get called on fine; if i don't thats even better. it will
keep me out of the mess. At my age you'd think one would git
used to this but you don't.

Chief always said he'd work till he died and he didn't care;
that was one reason why i liked the SOB. I feel the same way.

I Pray God Will Bless this Mess --- Amen and Amen


Been lifting you in continued prayer, Crayons.

Losing those we like/love and cherish in our lives is hard and then we do our best to comfort others.

I agree that being taken quickly is better than an agonized drawn out death of suffering. We know that the Lord was taken quickly. I watched my Great Grandmother from Holland suffer a long time (her body was literally dying in areas [turning black] while she laid in bed) and she was a true Saint ... I'd not want anyone to witness such suffering of a loved one.

Hope you are hanging in there. <3

No. 8     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  crayons   Gender: M   Age: 61   on  Oct 21, 2017 at 10:17 PM     
Thanks for the prayers!

It all worked out, I arrived late, sat in the back
cuz the place was packed & through the service
many other folks spoke & it was mostly in spanish;;;

His sister caught me tryin to sneak out at the end, so
i spoke with her for a few minutes, slipped her a few
hundred bucks and left ahead of the crowd.

Don't even know why they wanted "me"...cus even though he was
an American most everyone there was TXMex.
No. 9     Reply: Re: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  Oct 22, 2017 at 9:47 AM     
crayons wrote:

Thanks for the prayers!

It all worked out, I arrived late, sat in the back
cuz the place was packed & through the service
many other folks spoke & it was mostly in spanish;;;

His sister caught me tryin to sneak out at the end, so
i spoke with her for a few minutes, slipped her a few
hundred bucks and left ahead of the crowd.

Don't even know why they wanted "me"...cus even though he was
an American most everyone there was TXMex.


Crayons, I bet you were loved by your coworker and spoken fondly of (as for the reason).

I am glad things worked out. <3
No. 10     Reply: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  Survivor698   Gender: M   Age: 103   on  Oct 22, 2017 at 12:16 PM     
Glad to hear it went as well as funeral can go.
No. 11     Reply: Re: Re: Eulogy Advise?   
By:  Devaprakash   Gender: M   Age: 73   on  Oct 22, 2017 at 8:28 PM     
crayons wrote:

Thanks for the prayers!

It all worked out, I arrived late, sat in the back
cuz the place was packed & through the service
many other folks spoke & it was mostly in spanish;;;

His sister caught me tryin to sneak out at the end, so
i spoke with her for a few minutes, slipped her a few
hundred bucks and left ahead of the crowd.

Don't even know why they wanted "me"...cus even though he was
an American most everyone there was TXMex.
:2thumbs: A fine and useful gesture on your part.