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No. 0     Original Topic:  One year update   
By:  Peter4   Gender: M   Age: 43   on  May 4, 2017 at 5:06 PM   Viewed 2775 times     
I'm coming up on the 1 year date since my divorce. It was in June 2016 and it's been a tough year, the toughest time in my entire lifetime. Things are a little better and some days are better than others but there is a lot of healing & prayer still needed. The sadness, fear, regret and depression were something that without the Lord's help and guidance would have been even worse.

I want to thank all the forum members who stepped up and helped me through this year. Much appreciated and many blessings to you. Sandie has been tremendously helpful. My hat off to her and many thanks.

No. 1     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  May 4, 2017 at 6:45 PM     
Thank God ... you made it through " one year " Peter !

We will continue to keep you in our prayers ... knowing the Good Lord will continue to help you ... and bring you comfort. Amen !
No. 2     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  Kari   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  May 4, 2017 at 10:17 PM     
He's ever faithful, isn't he? Praying God continues to guide you and brings you renewed joy as you move forward in Him. He has a plan for your life.
No. 3     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  May 4, 2017 at 10:55 PM     
Peter --

Thank you. I feel very honored by our fellowship in Christ. I think the hurt and healing takes a while, but it is a reflection of the deep love felt. Unlike a faucet, there is no valve to stop the hurt (I sure wish there was). You are a year further along though and continued prayer for you is ongoing. Praying for your inlaws/exwife as well. It is for certain that I see the Lord in you and your heart and that His Plans for you are greater than known or expected.

Thanks again for your kind words here. Continued prayers.



No. 4     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  Peter4   Gender: M   Age: 43   on  May 4, 2017 at 11:25 PM     
Thank you once again! Much love and appreciation. If we never meet in person, I know we will meet in heaven.

I wish it could be turned off like a faucet but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. That's why in heaven God will wipe away the pain and suffering we experienced and I don't believe we will remember it but if we do, we will have the capacity not to experience the pain like we do here on earth.

No. 5     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  May 5, 2017 at 6:57 AM     
A beautiful site to see ... when Christians come together and pray.

:group_prayer:

May you continue to sense, Peter, the prayers being offered on your behalf. We are all honored to " stand with ya " ... to keep praying ... as you move ahead with the Lord.

:2thumbs:
No. 6     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  ChildOfGod559   Gender: F   Age: 64   on  May 10, 2017 at 6:09 AM     
Thanks for being so open here on MC Peter. I thank the Dear Lord, our greatest Friend, and Counselor, Jesus who helps heal us from the inside out. The more you stay focused on our Lord, and stay close to your Christian Friends, the better it will be for you. Not Easy Peter, but each day your put your best foot forward, and live it to the fullest doing things to stay busy the better you will feel. I hope that you are in a support group, as its really helpful for you to be. When we walk among others that can fit our shoes, as we call upon the Lord the load seems a bit lighter. Just as you have got through this year just about, you will get through another month, and another one...You will learn, mature, and begin to take more control of your life. You will KNOW Peter you are okay, and your not a bad person. You have done the best in life with what you knew, and had to work with. Peter, your on my list of people I pray for daily. I fully understand you. However, I have a strong Faith in Christ, and I know he has your best interest in mind. He will never leave you or forsake you...God bless you always!
No. 7     Reply: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  May 11, 2017 at 4:34 PM     
Peter4 wrote: That's why in heaven God will wipe away the pain and suffering we experienced and I don't believe we will remember it but if we do, we will have the capacity not to experience the pain like we do here on earth.


Since people will recognize one another ... I would suggest a greater understanding will be held than we have today...

The scripture about how we see partial today, but when the Perfect comes we will see fully, comes to mind. As well there is no marrying in Heaven, so the desires of the Spirit will not follow the flesh anymore.

You know Peter, it's ironic that His Mercy every overflowing to wash our tears away causes me tears sometimes (of joy).

Many Blessings Wished by Brother in Christ! Many prayers are being lifted for you!


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No. 8     Reply: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  Peter4   Gender: M   Age: 43   on  May 11, 2017 at 8:10 PM     
ChildOfGod559 wrote:

Thanks for being so open here on MC Peter. I thank the Dear Lord, our greatest Friend, and Counselor, Jesus who helps heal us from the inside out. The more you stay focused on our Lord, and stay close to your Christian Friends, the better it will be for you. Not Easy Peter, but each day your put your best foot forward, and live it to the fullest doing things to stay busy the better you will feel. I hope that you are in a support group, as its really helpful for you to be. When we walk among others that can fit our shoes, as we call upon the Lord the load seems a bit lighter. Just as you have got through this year just about, you will get through another month, and another one...You will learn, mature, and begin to take more control of your life. You will KNOW Peter you are okay, and your not a bad person. You have done the best in life with what you knew, and had to work with. Peter, your on my list of people I pray for daily. I fully understand you. However, I have a strong Faith in Christ, and I know he has your best interest in mind. He will never leave you or forsake you...God bless you always!


I appreciate the kind words!

I still struggle about "what if" and think about what I could have done to prevent this from happening. I never wanted the marriage to end but she did. I wanted to seek Christian counseling but she refused. I wanted Godly healing and restoration of our marriage but she refused.

Yet, I still feel guilt and sadness that it ended in a divorce. I believed and would have stayed until death do us part. I really thought our marriage would have lasted a lifetime. She was my first love and I was her first love. God brought us together, she believed that and she stated that openly. Then 12 years later, she divorced without warning and without cause.

It's been a tough year but thank you for the prayers and encouragement...
No. 9     Reply: Re: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  greendiamond   Gender: F   Age: 63   on  May 11, 2017 at 8:28 PM     
Peter4 wrote:

I appreciate the kind words!

I still struggle about "what if" and think about what I could have done to prevent this from happening. I never wanted the marriage to end but she did. I wanted to seek Christian counseling but she refused. I wanted Godly healing and restoration of our marriage but she refused.

Yet, I still feel guilt and sadness that it ended in a divorce. I believed and would have stayed until death do us part. I really thought our marriage would have lasted a lifetime. She was my first love and I was her first love. God brought us together, she believed that and she stated that openly. Then 12 years later, she divorced without warning and without cause.

It's been a tough year but thank you for the prayers and encouragement...


Hi Peter......

so good you got friends here who care about you.
God keep you close......:hug:
No. 10     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  Peter4   Gender: M   Age: 43   on  May 20, 2017 at 8:32 PM     
I still keep in touch with my former in-laws. It may seem weird but we were always close from the beginning of the marriage and even after the divorce, we stayed close. We communicate regularly and they still let me call them "Mom & Dad"

They were my only family. I have no other close family. I am by myself. So when I married my wife, I finally had a close and real loving family. It was the happiest time in my 30 year life. Then when my wife left and divorced me without cause and warning, it was a crushing blow because I not only lost my wife but I lost the ONLY family I had.

It's hard to explain but being without a family, is very difficult. A few weeks ago I was really sick and I had NOBODY around to help me. I prayed that God would end my suffering and take me home to heaven. I wanted to go home and be with my Lord.

So during Christmas, I am alone. During Thanksgiving, I am alone. It's a very sad and depressing thing but that is the reality of it. The loss of my wife in divorce caused a split in the only family I had.

No. 11     Reply: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  May 21, 2017 at 4:24 AM     
Peter4 wrote:

So during Christmas, I am alone. During Thanksgiving, I am alone. It's a very sad and depressing thing but that is the reality of it. The loss of my wife in divorce caused a split in the only family I had.



Just wondering Peter ... do you have a " church family " ??? Are you associated with a church somewhere ? ( if you wish to answer )
No. 12     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  ChildOfGod559   Gender: F   Age: 64   on  May 22, 2017 at 4:35 AM     
Peter thanks so much for sharing as you have. That is awesome you still have contact regularly with your in-laws of your previous marriage. As you say, they are the family you have known. They are your Ma and Pa. Perhaps Peter when the Holidays row around and you feel lonely, and all alone you may consider this...visiting a child and getting involved in the Big Brother program. Visit the elderly in a retirement home, or a lonely soul in the convalescent home who has no more family like you, and spend time with that one. I have found by taking my eyes off of myself during a holiday, birthday, or anniversary it is very helpful! Get with a brother from your Church who will be alone. Jesus does not want you lonely, or feeling alone. However, their are so many out here in this world who are our very neighbors that are feeling the same way too. We do not have to be alone Peter. We can rise above depression by helping another who is much worse off than we are. I continue to pray for you always. I have passed your way before, and this worked well for me. Create things that bring you joy! I have learned that the ones I looked to the most to bring me Joy, and Happiness were gone way to soon. So, I now look to bring a bit of joy, a smile, or laughter to someone else. And, realize its just me and Jesus. So, what would he have me too do? It does my heart good! God Bless you Peter.
No. 13     Reply: Re: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  Peter4   Gender: M   Age: 43   on  May 24, 2017 at 2:32 AM     
RadioPreacherMan wrote:

Peter4 wrote:

So during Christmas, I am alone. During Thanksgiving, I am alone. It's a very sad and depressing thing but that is the reality of it. The loss of my wife in divorce caused a split in the only family I had.



Just wondering Peter ... do you have a " church family " ??? Are you associated with a church somewhere ? ( if you wish to answer )


Yes, I attend a church regularly and know some people from the church. I attend a Men's Group also. The reality I have learned is that even in a church group, when it comes to holidays, blood family is real family and people like me are the 5th wheel.

I wish it was different but when it came to holidays, most of the church people I knew had family coming over and I was invited by only 1 person and even then it was not appealing as the invite was not too inviting (if you catch my drift).

I knew I would be out of place. The lone wolf that doesn't have a pack to be around. That is just the reality of it.

My family estranged me when I left the Catholic church. I was without a family for a long time and then I got married and was part of a family with my in-laws. We spent Christmas together and they loved me and viewed me as their family and son.

That all changed when the wife I loved and cared for did a 180 and decided she didn't want to be married and didn't love me anymore. How Christ-like of her, right? She bolted to the Pacific Northwest and lived there with her parents and then filed for divorce. Leaving me with all the duties and responsibilities of caring for our pets, house and bills. Again, how Christ-like of her to do that to a man that loved her and cared for her for almost 12 years.

Anyways, here I am, 2017. All alone and while the in-laws still contact me, things have changed. It's not like before, it never will be. I am no longer their son-in-law, but a former son-in-law.

I pray for Rapture to go home with my Lord. The cruelty and sadness of this world is so great. It's the reality of it and that's how I feel and believe.



No. 14     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  May 24, 2017 at 7:12 AM     
Thanks Peter ... :wavey:

I read over what you said a number of times ... there's not really anything I don't think a person can say except ...

" this is the way it is " ... for now.

When I pray ... I ask God to do whatever He knows is " best " for me ... or for others I am keeping in prayer. I also pray ... whenever things turn out a certain way ... where it doesn't look like it is the best in my mind ... this is when I ask God to help me to " accept " it ... even when I personally think it stinks to high heaven.

Notice what I said at the beginning ... " this is the way it is " .... FOR NOW ( emphasis on FOR NOW ).

We may not know ... for now ... what God has planned for us on down the road. There are times when life gets all messed up, but I believe you will agree ... God knows how to work through all of the messes ... and will indeed " bless the mess " in some way. Its just ... FOR NOW ... we can't see what He has in mind for us.

He can continue to " bless our heart " in the middle of the mess. He can bring comfort and encouragement to us ... He can bring insight and all kinds of things we didn't see before ... He can lift us up and calm our fears ... He can again ... help us to ACCEPT how it is ... FOR NOW.

It is a process we all go through in different ways ... the process takes time and God's love to get us " through it all. "

FOR NOW ... you have been honest about your situation and not trying to deny how you feel about it all ...

That's Good !

FOR NOW ... you have been OPEN and sense a comfort in knowing you do have people here on MC ... praying and listening ... offering whatever we can to let you know ...

Hey ... We are Standing with Ya !

FOR NOW ... you know without a doubt ... how the Good Lord has brought you along to this point in your life ... ministering to you ... and letting you know ...

" STILL HERE " !

YES ... this is the way it is ... for now ... and I know there will be a time where you can honestly say ... " I am OKAY with it " ... which means you can function where you are ... for now ... and you are willing to wait and keep trusting the Good Lord ... for whatever He has in store for you ... because we do have ...

A Wonderful Future Ahead of Us with Christ !

Yes ... there are times when I say ... " take me home " too ... but then I see I'm still here in life ... but again ... as long as I am here ... I need the Good Lord to help me here ... for now ... amen ? Amen !

Besides ... there's just so many people I need to aggravate before I go.

Still keeping ya in prayer my friend ! :pray:

No. 15     Reply: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  Peter4   Gender: M   Age: 43   on  May 24, 2017 at 7:36 AM     
RadioPreacherMan wrote:

Thanks Peter ... :wavey:

I read over what you said a number of times ... there's not really anything I don't think a person can say except ...

" this is the way it is " ... for now.
sting the Good Lord ... for whatever He has in store for you ... because we do have ...

A Wonderful Future Ahead of Us with Christ !

Yes ... there are times when I say ... " take me home " too ... but then I see I'm still here in life ... but again ... as long as I am here ... I need the Good Lord to help me here ... for now ... amen ? Amen !

Besides ... there's just so many people I need to aggravate before I go.

Still keeping ya in prayer my friend ! :pray:



Thank you for the kind words and the prayers. Much appreciated!

I am relying on the Lord and seeing what His plans are for my life. That's all we can do as Believers. The Lord has seen me through a lot and He will continue to see me through, that is His promise to me/us as Believers.

The hardest part for me is when Christians hurt other Christians and do things so out of line with what the Bible says. When it came to divorce, sadly, even her parents said that divorce is allowed if the spouse is no longer wanting to be married. They twisted Scripture in doing so. They serve on a church board and never thought they would do that, but they did, and it saddened me.

I was a good husband. Never cheated, nor abused, didn't drink and loved and treated her with great love and respect. If I was a bad husband, I would have had it coming, but I was a good husband. Perfect? No spouse is perfect but I was a loving husband to her. She had her flaws also but I still loved her and never would have left her.

No. 16     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  RadioPreacherMan   Gender: M   Age: 59   on  May 24, 2017 at 9:52 AM     
Yea ... I have seen it before Peter.

People will go along with or side with family ( or friends ) instead of following what God Word tells us ... and knowing He will help us do it ... but decides otherwise.

I agree ... it's sad to see it happen.

No. 17     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  Peter4   Gender: M   Age: 43   on  Jun 22, 2017 at 11:17 PM     
Thanks for the prayers and support!
No. 18     Reply: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  Jun 25, 2017 at 8:15 PM     
Peter4 wrote:

Thanks for the prayers and support!


Thanks for offering so much here too to others by sharing your testimony and steadfast devotion and love for the Lord's Will and Word.

It is members like you that add meaning to MC (and I wish we had more here like you Peter).

May the Lord Bless and I will continue to hold you in prayers.

No. 19     Reply: Re: One year update   
By:  ChildOfGod559   Gender: F   Age: 64   on  Jun 26, 2017 at 2:45 AM     
Peter, I want you to know that I still have a little talk with Jesus concerning what you are dealing with each day. I don't forget you brother. Jesus is always with you...HIS LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL! I feel like he would have me tell you, "Things are going to turn around". Stay strong, with HOPE in your heart! You're sisters and brothers here care. So, what ever challenges you face, know we are here to support you. Proverbs 3:5
No. 20     Reply: Re: Re: One year update   
By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 103   on  Jun 26, 2017 at 2:51 PM     
ChildOfGod559 wrote:

Peter, I want you to know that I still have a little talk with Jesus concerning what you are dealing with each day. I don't forget you brother. Jesus is always with you...HIS LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL! I feel like he would have me tell you, "Things are going to turn around". Stay strong, with HOPE in your heart! You're sisters and brothers here care. So, what ever challenges you face, know we are here to support you. Proverbs 3:5


Amen!