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By:  justdoit952   Gender: F   Age: 44   on  Jan 29, 2013 at 8:00 AM   Viewed 25151 times     
I met a man and fell in love. He and I both drank beer on a daily basis, but he had asked me to quit because it was creating drama in our life, so I went from everyday drinker to sometimes. However, he did not and we lived together for about three years before we decided to get married. He was so good to me that I overlooked his drinking(he never got out of hand) in fact was loveable. 2 weeks after we got married I came home from work and in that one night my life was turned upside down. My husband was not the man I married, he was at first being verbally mean( calling me some names) and then all the sudden he wants to go out drinking (which is not like him at all). I felt like right there and then a bad omen and even told him that, but I was a little scared that he would get angry if I didnt follow him, so I went. After about the fourth bar he hooks up with a couple of guys to get him anything like joint, pills etc. (Iam dinking too) and Im thinking what the heck is he doing?? He continues to consume hard liquor and his anger towards me worsens. I began crying and doing so it drove the 2 men away, so now his anger is at its peak! He pulls my hair and puts me in our truck and then procedes to park behind a apartment complex all the way there he his hollering at me that he is going to F'ing kill me and asking me why I acted like that etc..when we get behind the apartment Im really scared, Im thinking he is going to kill me so I tried to jump out of the truck and he pulls my hair again to drag me back and then he just starts choking me, my tears are flowing and all I can think of is he is going to kill me and throw me in a dumpster! Im too weak to fight him and just as I about to lose air, he suddenly stops! and now Im thinking ok, do not provoke him, stay calm. So after about 10-15mins of calmly talking to him into letting me just drive us home and praying constantly for God to help me, Im petrified! He lets me drive and ask me to stop at McDonalds to get french fries, so my head is spinning and all I could think of is that Iam not going to go home and be with this man by myself for the night, so when the clerk came up I mouthed to her to call 911 3 times!!! Now he is still threatening me, but has calmed down somewhat. When we get home I can tell he is not calling it a night he is still wired, but within 3mins 5 police officiers show up and Iam so relieved to see them. They arrest him. God saved my life! I got on my knees and prayed and thank Him. My husband does not remember anything, and pleading to me not to give up on us. How can one have any remorse for something they cannot remember! He claims he has found God, but I still have fear and I dont want him to come home when he gets out and he is pressuring me to forgive him..I pray everyday for strength and wisdom to hold my own, I have been severly depressed and just trying to cope with a lost of income and starting over by myself with the pressure of trying to be supportive for him to get help (which he is doing) but to be honest I do not have alot of faith that he will be able to give up drinking and become this new man. Just throwing this out there for the first time because I need support from anywhere I can get it right now!
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By:  Gary208   Gender: M   Age: 65   on  Jan 29, 2013 at 9:05 AM     
Rough story there JDI.

This is probably not what you want to hear right now; but,

A leopard cannot change its spots.

It may appear tame for a short while,
but will always return to its natural instincts.

No matter how many times things may appear to change,
they won't stay that way for long,
and will often get worse over time.

You've now seen first hand the steps of decline from drinking to pot to drugs and suffered the escalating abuse.

I fell into that same trap myself, took my first wife back several times and when each event would recur, it was worse and longer lasting.

I have paid dearly for those mistakes ever since.

There is a light for you, someone out there who will cherish the very ground you walk on, and show love to you every single day.

May God Bless and lead you down the correct path to follow.