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No. 0     Original Topic:  Looking for that love of my life   
By:  liz315282   Gender: F   Age: 49   on  May 12, 2012 at 11:11 AM   Viewed 27107 times     
Hello there! I'm here to hopefully find the Godly man I have been searching for
I was married for 16 years to a man who was mentally and sometimes physically abusive. He also was an adult with the mind of a child. No matter what I did or tried to do, everything failed and he was too close with his large family members. They were right and I was wrong. So after all the heartache and tears and suffering, in 2006, I ended the marriage. I was wasting my time and I even prayed for a solution and nothing happened.
I was involved with a few online long distance relationships and those failed--the last man I had was totally anti Christian and was a truth seeking universalist who just micked Christianity to no end. I tried to be flexible with this man and then I despised him so much because of the mockery he did that I asked the Lord to take away this man from my life and Praise His Holy name he did!
I am on the verge of giving up and simply accepting the fact that perhaps I will be alone with no special man in my life.
Perhaps I have been searching in vain and God wants me to be alone and just focus on Him and praying for others that i care about.
I have always wanted someone with Godly virtue and someone who knew how to understand women and what they needed--and believe me I do understand men fully.
I am also a large woman as well and that too seems to be hindering me in my search as no man likes a fat woman.
Well maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm not but one thing is certain--I will accept whatever God chooses for me--not my will be done, but THY will!
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By:  gotfaith59358   Gender: F   Age: 53   on  Sep 4, 2012 at 7:52 PM     
Hi im new here, but i must say my story is the same as yours! Are there any good christian men out there?
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By:  rahulnirmal   Gender: M   Age: 38   on  Jul 4, 2015 at 2:58 PM     
Hello there

I read your stories. I have myself gone through similar situations. When I was in the US I dated few girls but thought it would be best to marry my own kind. So I registered on the matrimonial website and made few connections. I married a nurse from North India and she came to the US with me. It lasted only 6 months. She came back to India and persuaded me to come back too. I did but I couldn't find a job where she lived and she refused to relocate. There were some lies involved too. I approached a pastor couple to counsel us but that too failed. In the end it was a painful divorce.

I also had some long distance relationships. One was very good. She lived in England and I was in the US. I went to see her 4 times in five months. But it didn't work out because her family was not Christian and they didn't approve.

I wish you good luck.
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By:  CAsandie   Gender: F   Age: 48   on  Aug 6, 2015 at 9:32 PM     
Hi Liz and gotfaith and Rah,

Please do not be discouraged. This site is by no means an exhibit of Christians (some are not who join this site as well as other sites. We have to be prudent and search the hearts of those we meet in determination of capatability). This site has been known to attract less than average Christians (as you can tell from threads). I am a long term member and being honest upon reading your despair. A friend of mine on a pay site has held great fortune in meeting women there that were marriable and without great issues. He is a good Christian man and a Commander in the Navy (so he is there). I know that the Lord has great plans for all three of you! Be encouraged! The Lord never sleeps and knows the wants of your heart. Seek Him first and all else will follow. :hug:

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By:  unspoiled   Gender: M   Age: 52   on  May 10, 2017 at 12:03 PM     
well, you had much more loving than many others. i'm still looking for my first real love, with as little experience as myself and that means someone who was in relationships probably on the order of a total of 2 years in their life - this is for compatibility in regards to experience. in this country, the age difference precludes my finding anyone unless i am a teacher or in some such profession where i can exploit my position as often happens or if i become really rich and then the age gap becomes less an issue (look at many old rock stars, movie stars, politicians are easily able to be with 18-year old women). Apparently men choose their occupation in life in part for their ability to get women as opposed to doing on good principles.
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By:  Favour2009238   Gender: F   Age: 43   on  Nov 11, 2017 at 6:16 PM     
I am hopeful that God will bless me with a God fearing man as a lifetime partner.
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By:  texascowgirl283   Gender: F   Age: 51   on  Nov 11, 2017 at 8:29 PM     
I'm here to hopefully find the Godly man

That's your problem. Your expectations are way too high and non existant on planet earth. Godly no, decent yes. Lower your expectations otherwise you could be passing up some good men. I have known a lot of men that didnt go to church and they were far better than men who did. I do not believe in picking a man just becuase he attends church. You should pick a man who you have feelings for instead church or not. Was the man you were married to for 16 yrs a church going man before you married him? Did you think he was a godly man before you married him?

no man likes a fat woman.

No man???This is not true. Many men have fell in love with heavy set women. Some men see women as a person and then there are the others who see just a body. You dont want the one that only sees you as a body. Some men are looking for inner beauty that steals their heart which lasts and others are looking for outer beauty which does not last.